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How much is too much?

August 31st, 2009

Should your child go to football practice 5 days per week? 3 days are enough? It is common for parents to get a little confused when it comes to deciding how much too much going is on after school activities. They disagree that since most of the activities are fun (as different from studies), children will minimally lap up these classes. However, too much fun cans a sick child. Here is a simple guide that helps you decide how much is too much for your child.

Kindergarten:
Your child has just started to learn to work together and get used to discipline. His or her after school life should be easy and free from care. One or two lessons a week are enough at the beginning. Once the child settles down, look for more challenging activities, such as a music program.

Grade 1:
One or two activities per week, the dates and to play a playground visits are recommended. Avoid competitive sports activities. The child is too young to worry about winning and losing. After the rigors of a full day at school, he or she needs a healthy outlet for pent-up energy.
Substantial activities and non competitive sports are most excellent for this age.

Grade 2:
Your child is old enough to voice opinions on what activities he or she wants. Sports, skating, swimming or computers – to send him things he wants. A lot of children initiate lessons on a musical instrument around this age. But, let your child some ‘alone time when he can relax and just do what he wants.

Grade 3:
Socialization begins to take center stage. Team sports are a good selection. The development of motor skills, painting, drawing etc are good. Allow the child to explore areas of interest. But leave aside enough time for family and fun activities.

Grade 4:
At this age the child will tell you what he wants. He is complicated in activities that will improve his confidence. This will also help him manage stress as this is when peer pressure begins to build. But, be cautious of the homework demon. Your child has more time to his studies. Balancing his learning with other activities is very important.

Grade 5:
The fifth grader is bubbling with energy and will to do just about anything. But he or she can easily push research into the background. Thus, strict monitoring is needed. Keep one or two days free time for family and other activities. Now is a good time for your child interested in community service to get?

Middle School turns him away from TV. Get him involved in activities that enhance learning. Academic performance can be enhanced by encouraging your preteen to clubs like the Girl / Boy Scouts program participation, language clubs, chess clubs etc. As a thumb rule, 16-20 hours per week extra activity should be more than enough. But be alert to signs of burnout.

What you and your child how long he should work on it in fact determined by the temperament of the child. As a parent you must carefully observe your child and your decisions based on the feedback of the child.

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Over-scheduling kids

August 21st, 2009

Several studies have expressed a growing concern that after school programs are pressurizing kids to do too much too soon. They point out that when the afternoon of a child is filled with lessons, excursions, sports and other forms of organized activities, kids do not really have the time to just children. They are even deprived of the cherished family time.

Undoubtedly there are children who are burdened with a schedule that places too much demand on their time. This leads to higher levels of stress on the child and the family. As regular studies can not be ignored, children almost always on the run for more reach. These children are really a burden too heavy for their weak little shoulders.

In an ideal world all children would go home straight after school to loving and caring parents waiting for children to come home. But the social and economic realities show that many children attend after school courses because there is no one available at home. For these children, these classes are a blessing.

Parents should however bring under control themselves from reading too much into these activities. After school programs are gracious in nature. They give extra support.