Why does Lisa grumble when it’s time for her to go for her piano lessons? How come Michael abhors the sight of his skates now? These children were very enthusiastic about the program when she started. What happened? Parents are often confused by the disturbing and often inconsistent signals they receive from their children. One day the kids are excited about the new theater class and in just a few short weeks they wail and complain when it’s time to go.
The first thing a family should do when a child begins to oppose a previously loved activity is to listen and investigate. Do not jump to conclusions. A little detective work requires intelligent. Ask your child what he or she does in class. Find out what exactly caused the problem. Then ask the teachers with the same questions. Compare the notes. You can stumble on some important clues. Usually children start on an activity thinking its all fun. But when they realize they can not just hang out and they need to follow rules etc, the children begin to resist. Your child may get stifled if the program is structured. Because if the discipline is too strict or activity too painful (like a karate class) some children bar. Please use your own instincts. The program is like? Would you want to concentrate it yourself? Are they provided with sufficient motivation to keep the child interested?
Ratio of the teacher to child is also an important factor. The children are need attention. If the number of teachers is just enough to handle a classroom, it is possible that your child gets enough attention. State recommendations usually specify that there is one teacher for 15 children.
Children try to solve problems they can not occur. If no observable problems with the class and the teacher, maybe you need a conversation with your child to have. If your assessment says that the place is good and the action exciting enough, then it is time to work with your child. There is more often than not, then the social pressure at work here. Does your child have some friends there? Because if children is lonely or unhappy, because the lack of friends, help they find a friend. If they find a friend, they will get more involved in the activities
If you do everything not to pay, and your child still resists that fantastic guitar classes, then it’s time to let go. Shift your child to another program. If they still retain interest in guitars, you can use it after a few months. You do never force the child, especially when your child has extra-curricular activities. Because they are ‘extra’, they must do extra happiness and enthusiasm as well.
